Caregiver's thoughts are busy - they have to be because we have so many things to work out every single day. Many times I've condemned myself for my own thoughts not realizing it really is the way we work through stuff. But there are lots of thoughts that simply cannot be shared with others. For the caregiver there can be lots of things that we choose not to share.
When I first brought my son home from the nursing home and started working with him full time, I realized how difficult life was for him. He struggles to do anything. I had some thoughts many would find unacceptable. The only one I dare share is that my thoughts were that it would've been better for him to die in the wreck rather than live this way. Immediately I condemned myself for thinking that only to do some research and find that it was totally normal to have those thoughts and emotions; they go with the grieving process. They are normal to have - but not normal to share.
I started thinking about this because this weekend during my personal devotions I found myself in Luke 7, a passage I've read probably thousands of times. But this time, I saw something different. It reads like this:
Now when the Pharisee who had invited Him (Jesus) saw this,
he said to himself, "If this man were a prophet He would know
who and what sort of person this woman is who is touching Him,
that she is a sinner."
And Jesus answered him,
I stopped there because that's what grabbed me. The Pharisee was upset that Jesus was letting this "sinner" wash His feet and had these judgmental thoughts. They were just thoughts - but Jesus answered them. If He knows the thoughts of the Pharisee, don't you think He knows the heart and thoughts of those who love Him?
Psalm 139:3 says He is intimately acquainted with all my ways. He knows my thoughts, actions and even the intents of my heart. Verse 1 of this psalm says He understands my thoughts. I will rest in that today - knowing that He knows my thoughts - the good, the bad and the ugly - and He understands them. He understands me, the caregiver.
Today I will rest in the fact that God understands me - He gets me; and He offers no condemnation. I will rejoice in the fact that He is intimately acquainted with all my ways and knows me inside out. I'm okay with that. My goal for today will be to relax and not try futilely to hide my thoughts. I'm going to let Him run around in my thoughts and heart all day unrestrained and yield to His presence in my life. Will you join me?
Thank you so much for sharing these words today. Caregiving CAN be a lonely "job" and we all need the assurance the He knows our thoughts; he knows our needs and is with us through whatever it is that we are going through.ReplyDelete
Yes, I have those "good, bad and ugly" thoughts, too; and I have those weepy, frustrated, even depressing days. But, it is good to have someone who understands; someone who will share a little bit of scripture and a reminder that, yes! No matter how alone I - we - feel, He IS there beside us, always! Thank you, Jeanie...I am subscribing!!
HI, Barbara. Thank you for sharing your heart and thoughts with us today! It is always good to feel there are others who identify with us and our situations. Even though our situations are all unique, we can be encouraged by one another. Thanks for sharing and for reading!ReplyDelete