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Just Before the Dawn

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Have you ever stopped to count how many all-nighters you've pulled as a caregiver? I can't imagine even trying to count how many sleepless nights I've spent. Thankfully, I haven't needed to do it for a long time, but boy, have there been a lot of them. I am pretty sure that this is not unusual for most caregivers. Those long nights are just going to happen. There's an old saying it's always darkest right before the dawn.  In nature, this holds true. I've found it mostly true sitting in waiting rooms and hospital rooms, too. But once it hits about 4 am, the night feels over and the day begins to be upon us. There are a lot of people who work nights for a living. I don't know how they do it! My daughter recently became a respiratory therapist and chooses to work nights. Soldiers often serve night watches because someone's always got to be watching in the battle. That's what David references in Psalm 130. In verse 6, David says, My soul waits for th...

Unlocking Business Growth by Serving the Aging Population

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 Local service business owners, community-minded entrepreneurs, and operators looking for a steadier customer base are running into a real challenge: familiar markets feel crowded while new demand is hard to spot early. Aging population trends are changing that, creating a demographic shift that’s reshaping what households need day to day and where spending is moving. As more entrepreneurs targeting seniors enter the space, the gap between good intentions and reliable, dignified support is widening, and market demand for elder services is climbing across many communities. The businesses that recognize these business opportunities in the aging sector can build growth around needs that aren’t going away. Understanding Demand in the Aging Economy Demographic trends only become business opportunities when you translate them into daily tasks that get harder with age. That means mapping shifts in older-adult households to concrete services like safe transportation, meal support, home...

Emotional Traffic Jam

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 It's funny. I went to bed late last night, leaving some things undone, as usual. When I woke up this morning, they were still undone. All that means is that I am as overwhelmed this morning upon rising as I was last night when I lay down. Funny how that works.  Overwhelm is such a difficult thing caregivers deal with. I think most of us deal with it on many different levels. Taking care of the needs of a loved one is overwhelming enough all by itself. But then caregivers can have any number of other situations that add to that overwhelm. Many have outside jobs or work from home. Some are still caring for children or grandchildren. This list could go on and on, I am sure, if we all added in our "extras" that we do above and beyond our caregiving duties.  Life didn't hit pause when caregiving began. That means we still have to cook, clean, work, figure out our finances, grocery shop, and do all the things we normally  do or did, and add caregiving to it. It's a lot...

Just So Constant

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 Caregiver burnout is real. I'm pretty sure that this is what is going on with me. The other day, I got a beautiful wedding invitation from my nephew. It's a few states away, so there's no way I can try to tackle it at this time. I cried. I don't cry a lot, but that day, I cried.  Just a few months ago, I missed my niece's ceremony. They were very good about trying to accommodate, but it was just too far away, and funds were too low to even consider it.  As caregivers, we miss a lot. Maybe we get a little used to it, eventually. But it is a constant force. Oppressively pushing us down, if we let it. Even if we fight the oppression, it's a constant fight. Day after day of life trying to stuff us down into oblivion. It's easy for it to feel that way, isn't it? There's no doubt that we are engaging in a constant fight. It's work to keep pressing in. Even though we keep coming back to fully trusting Him, life can still hurt. It can still suck the bre...

3 x 3.

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Last week, I did a devotion called Hard Row . It was taken out of Mark 6. Jesus had sent the disciples across to the other side of the lake toward Bethesda. They ran into a strong wind. We focused on verse 48, which says Jesus saw: They were in serious trouble. They were rowing hard. They were struggling. If anyone can relate to those three, it's caregivers! But as we continue reading on in this chapter, there is another triplet that stands out.  Jesus saw the disciples and the difficulty they were in, and He came walking to them on the water. (He sure seemed to do that a lot!) What I found interesting was that Jesus said three things. It's all right. I am here. Don't be afraid. I am a number person (former math teacher), so it really stood out to me that He noticed three things and said three things. They were in serious trouble. It's all right. They were rowing hard. I am here. They were struggling. Don't be afraid. It was like for each emotion they were feeling, ...

Done it all?

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Do you ever go through those patches when the difficulties of caregiving life just seem to get tougher? As if caregiving alone isn't enough to navigate, we still have some sort of "life" left to figure out, too. There are more members in most of our families than just us and our loved ones, right? We still have to figure out finances, doctor's visits, our own health, relationships (family and friends), emotions, church stuff... and the list could go on, or be shorter based on our unique circumstances. Then, we go through times when it feels like it's a fight to just breathe. But we don't get to take a breather. We have to push through with at least our caregiving tasks. No one's going to do it for us, and sometimes there's no one around to do it with us, either. There's no option but to suck it up and figure it out! So, we do. But digging out of an emotional tunnel day after day can take a toll. And that's where I was today. Tired. Double tired...

A Hard Row

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 Mark 6 is packed with things that make you scratch your head in wonder. Jesus feeds 5000 people with 7 loaves of bread and 2 fish, with the disciples giving Him a helping hand. They were part of the miracle. Verse 41 tells us that Jesus asked the Father to bless the food. In the natural, it was not enough. Once He prayed over the food, He began to break pieces off to give to the disciples, who distributed it to the crowd of hungry people. Even though they were an active part of this miracle, verse 52 says they still didn't get it because their hearts were hard and they didn't believe. What a harsh thing to say about the disciples who were following Jesus so closely. But I have no judgement because I know there are areas that I struggle with believing. But let's back up in this story just a little bit. Jesus sent the disciples across the lake toward Bethsaida, and He sent the people home. (v.45) He finally got away so He could spend some time in prayer. He must have spent a...