The Normal That Gets Us

Chris with me at tae kwon do

 Over time, caregiving becomes our new normal. It's not any easier, but God gave humans the ability to adapt. And adapt, we do! We get used to our daily caregiver regimen, as hard or easy as that may seem. Of course, some days are easier than others. Some days are tougher on our scale, only measured by emotion and impact.

Sometimes, we are so locked into our daily drills that it's the normal things that trip us up. For most people, something like a flat tire is an inconvenience. For caregivers, it brings another whole level of frustration and figuring out the days. For most, it's just a little skip in their day. For caregivers, it's a roller coaster ride of what ifs. Nothing, absolutely nothing, is simple for the caregiver, even though we adjust well. 

Running out of an ingredient in the kitchen has a simple solution for most people. But for the caregiver, it often means a major upheaval! 

We carry the "big stuff" all day and all night every day and every night. But one little normal thing can create a topsy-turvy event in our small worlds. While others see these little events as small, normal things, for us it can be a stark reminder of how alone we really are.

No matter how often we remind ourselves that God is with us and He is not going anywhere, the physical aloneness can swallow us whole in those moments. Those moments are when I find myself going back to Him and asking, are You sure You're still with me? Of course, I know the answer, I just need His assurance one more time, especially after life sucker punched me again.

Today, I will remind myself that God does not have the capacity to leave me. He can't go anywhere because He's already there and still here, too! I'll crawl up in His lap once again today and I will let Him bring healing to my heart and soul like only He can bring. This is where I choose to rest my heart today as I trust Him for one more day. Will you join me?


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cover of my Book of James study guide


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  1. AnonymousOctober 2, 2025 at 7:12 AM

    Or there is not a pair of clean socks! Or Heaven forbid, we are out of gloves!

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